|How I Work
||There were two reasons I had decided to attend
your workshop: one
was to brush-up on and reinforce some of the techniques I had learned
during my coaching sessions; and the other was to support you.
I never imagined that I would receive so much more!
LK, Office Manager
My job as a coach is to support you to
find your own answers. Clients who have worked with me for six months to a
year or more have successfully produced results similar to these listed
below. In this section, I describe the Results
clients have gotten, the Techniques I use,
and the Nuts and Bolts of coaching with me.
Clients who work with me get balance in their lives. Work, family, and
leisure get appropriate portions of their time and energy. Therefore they
have less stress and more energy for living the life they love. They find it
is easier to make decisions and get organized, enjoying the support of
colleagues, friends and family.
When clients know their purpose and are engaged in activities (work-related
or not) that fulfill that purpose, they are filled with peace and
satisfaction. The main emotion they feel is joy. If they end up working
hard, it is never a struggle. They always make a difference in the world.
Clients who work with me to create a health plan find they have more energy,
reach and maintain their ideal weight, and have fewer illnesses. In my own
program, I have reversed the indicators of heart disease and have found a
eating plan that is wonderfully satisfying and has allowed me to move toward
my ideal weight without feeling deprived. I feel energetic and can do the
kind of exercise I love (walking, hiking, biking, and skiing). I have had
only two colds in the past five years.
When you know what you feel and can express those emotions in a way that
doesnt harm yourself or others, you are being real. When you are authentic,
you can discover your own magnificence. People are attracted to you because
you are grounded and exude a sense of purpose. You can use your creativity
to change conflict to productive action.
Relationships with long time partners and good friends flourish in the
environment of impeccable agreements and full responsibility. My clients
learn how to listen with empathy, say what is true without blame and
criticism, and accept themselves and others unconditionally. They are say
what they are going to do and do it. When an agreement doesnt work, they
know how to change it so that no one is burdened. They take responsibility
for their own lives and support others to do the same. They exist in an
environment that supports growth and creativity, laughter and pleasure, and
encourages a world of possibilities.
Law of Attraction
My clients use the Law of Attraction to bring their hearts desires into
their lives. They identify what they want and get really clear about the
details. Then they eliminate doubts about getting it and simply allow it to
show up. The process is simple.
I use the following techniques (and
others) to support clients to find their own solutions and create a vibrant
life. In addition to coaching, I give clients tools so they can do this work
on their own. My best goal is to put myself out of business. That makes
satisfied clients who tell their friends and family about my work that makes
me happy because it keeps my practice full. If you are a self starter and
only need some suggestions, these techniques and others are available in my
Transformation: Coach Your Self to Wholeness workbook.
Every problem is best solved when there are three or more options. We both
suggest options, some of them sensible and some impractical. We use whimsy
to open our minds to think outside the box. Then we narrow the choices down
to four or five options that seem most likely and you try on each
idea and choose the one that fits and feels the best.
Recently a client and I were talking about a situation and she said
something about keeping a commitment, which made me ask, So what
commitments have you not kept? This is an example of a powerful question.
Such questions often arise by my listening to the language a client uses.
Its like my intuition is radar and I pick up the loose thread and we
explore whats underneath.
Goal Setting Technique 1
I often use the G.R.O.W. model to help people explore their goals. What is
your goal? Whats the reality right now? What are your options? What are you
willing to do?
Goal Setting Technique 2
Here is another technique to help clients discover how and
why they are committed to a goal. (Sometimes it helps them see that the goal
isnt exactly what they wanted and they refine it to be more powerful.)
What is your goal? What is your reason for wanting that goal? How will
your life be different when you reach this goal? How will reaching your goal
bring you happiness? What are you willing to commit to? What is the date
this will be accomplished? What are the steps? How do you measure your
Whatever you are complaining about in your life is giving you a message
about what you need to change about yourself. Complain about whatever is
bugging you? What does this remind you of from the past? How do you keep
this going in the present? How do you want it to be in the future?
The Completion Process
Often we feel at the mercy of a lingering connection with something from the
past. Thoughts about it keep nagging at us and keeping us from living life
fully. For example, you may be plagued by thought of your ex-spouse and
always remembering things that happened and renegotiating them with inner
dialogue. Other attachments might be the expectations of your parents, or
the rules of a religious institution. I work through the process with my
clients and often assign this one as homework for a whole list of things
that keep interfering with their being present in the now.
Knowing your emotions (as opposed to what you think) can guide to make good
decisions. Emotions are felt in the body but since most of us are
conditioned to pay very little attention to our bodies, we arent
particularly good at knowing what we feel. I have simple exercises to help
clients identify their personal response to fear, anger, sadness, and joy
and as we coach, I use gentle reminders to scan their body to see what it
says about a situation. The body doesnt lie.
Clients who are coached by me create
their own solutions. They set goals, and create the steps to reach that
goal. (When you determine what and how to do things, you far more likely to
do it than if I set some arbitrary rules. Ideas that speak to me may not
speak to you at all.) Further, I hold clients accountable and serve as a
sounding board when things dont go as expected. I ask powerful questions,
listen for the truth and use my intuition a lot.
I hold your vision for as long as it takes for you to make it
I offer two kinds of coaching: one-on-one phone coaching
and email coaching.
One-on-One Coaching: I usually coach by phone and occasionally in person at my
home in Berkeley, CA. If you live outside of this are, you are responsible
for the long distance phone charges. Of course one-on-one coaching is
tailored specifically for the needs you state. This is more expensive
because I work with you in real time.
eCoach: For people have limited funds I offer
weekly lessons delivered by email and then a few email exchanges during the
week. While the weekly exercises are standard for every client, your answers
to inquiries will be uniquely yours. I'll tell you what to send back to me
so that we can have a meaningful email dialog.
If you would like to explore working with me, I am happy
to speak with you on the phone 510-548-2585. You can tell me a bit
about your current situation and Ill do a little coaching. That way, we can
see if we are a fit for each other. Before you call, take the quiz (Is
Coaching for You?) so we can quickly see the areas where you might
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